Is Spanking Still an Issue for 18-Year-Olds in 2023?
The topic of spanking as a form of discipline for older teenagers is surprisingly still a point of contention among families. While it is often considered outdated and unnecessary for adults, the reality is that some households continue to employ this method of punishment. This article explores the issue of spanking for 18-year-olds and the legal and ethical considerations surrounding it.
Living at Home and Receiving Spankings
Several 18-year-olds have expressed that they continue to receive spankings at home, despite being of legal age.
Common Experiences
Mike (18) said in a social media post, 'Unfortunately, so. I'm in my last year of high school and still live at home. I just got spanked by my mom last week.' Similarly, Lucy (18) shared, 'Yes! I'm 18 and still get spankings by both my mom and dad. My mom spanked me on Saturday. Then almost again last night.'
Many teens in similar situations voice their experiences. Sarah (22) elaborates, 'Well, I’m 22 still living at home and still receive regular spankings from my parents as does my 20-year-old sister. We will continue to be spanked for as long as we live at home.' These accounts highlight the ongoing issue of spanking among older teenagers.
Legal and Ethical Considerations
While legal, the practice of spanking 18-year-olds raises questions about the appropriate boundaries of parental authority and child welfare.
Felicia (19) comments, 'The question is: why would an 18-year-old allow anyone to spank them? If my parents had abused me, I would have started fighting back around 4. I would be winning the fight by age 18. Now as an adult, you can file assault charges!' Felicia's perspective touches on the power dynamics and potential abuse that can exist, even within seemingly traditional disciplinary methods.
Alternatives to Spanking
Parents and teens must consider whether spanking is the most effective and acceptable form of discipline, especially for legal adults. Some alternatives to consider include:
Discussing options and implementing a contract between parents and teens for agreed-upon consequences. Seeking counseling or therapy to improve communication and understanding within the family. Exploring more positive reinforcement methods, such as compliments, rewards, and recognition for good behavior. Creating a safe space for open and honest dialogue regarding feelings, needs, and expectations.Parental Guidance and Responsibility
Ultimately, parents have the responsibility to guide their children towards adulthood, even if it means adapting their methods of discipline. Jesse (21) advises, 'If you live at home and do things you shouldn’t and spanking is the form of discipline in your family, then it could be considered acceptable. But at 18, you shouldn’t need to be disciplined so it should not be an issue. If you are in need of parental control and direction because of your behavior, then you must not be grown up enough yet. Your options are to mature enough not to need discipline, negotiate for another form of discipline, accept the spankings, or move out. Pray about it, speak with your parents about it, and then make a wise decision.'
Conclusion
The practice of spanking 18-year-olds continues to be a complex and controversial topic. While legally permissible, it raises ethical and practical questions about the boundaries of parental authority and the best ways to support teenagers in developing into independent adults. Families need to carefully weigh their options and consider the long-term impact of their choices.