Facing a Former Narcissist: Strategies for Moving On
Dealing with a former narcissist can be one of the most challenging experiences of your life. Understanding how to navigate through their behavior and protect your new relationship is crucial. If you find yourself in this situation, there are steps you can take to ensure your well-being and the success of your new relationship.
Legal Intervention is Key
The first and most important step is to inform the legal arm of family services immediately if your ex-narcissist tries to interfere with your current relationship. Timeliness is critical because a narcissist thrives on drama and chaos. By involving legal authorities, you can put an end to their manipulative behavior and ensure your peace of mind.
Remember: Don’t hesitate to take action. The sooner you address the situation, the less likely your ex-narcissist will be able to cause further harm.
Narcissists' Behavior and Supply
Narcissists are driven by external validation and supply. They do not genuinely care about the people they are involved with; instead, they are solely interested in what you can provide for them. If you no longer meet their needs, they will naturally move on to find someone else who can "feed" their ego.
Eventually, your ex-narcissist will lose interest if you don’t validate their actions and their methods for making you unhappy. Their jealousy stems from the fact that you didn’t pine for them or cause yourself unnecessary distress. The ultimate revenge against a narcissist is to move on and lock them out of your life entirely. They are as good as dead and buried to you.
Enjoy Your New Life
Embrace your new life and relationships with joy and confidence. Narcissists often try to prevent you from moving on by creating drama or pursuing you. If you ghost them, they may lose interest in the game of chasing and following you. In our experience, our ex-narcissist grew tired of the drama and eventually moved on.
Your actions are critical. We never responded to her lies and blocked her from any communication channels. She ultimately realized that no one was taking her seriously and stopped pursuing us. This experience taught us that reality matters. Some individuals, like her, fill their heads with delusional relationships that never existed, believing their friends and supporters without giving reality a chance.
Examples of Narcissistic Behavior
One example involves a woman who used to date my now-husband (fiance at that time). She saw him during a breakup and thought it was love, but he was simply using her because she kept chasing him. He had already told her he was in love with me, but she couldn’t accept that. So, she developed a delusional idea of a relationship, believing herself to be his "boyfriend." Her attempts to maintain this delusional relationship ultimately failed when she understood we had blocked her everywhere and she was nearly fired from her job.
Another instance shows how a narcissist’s actions can be desperate yet futile. She continued to believe she was his girlfriend, even after he moved in with me and bought us a home. She still believed him to be her boyfriend, filled with the idea of a relationship that never existed. She spent her money on flowers and chocolates for me, using every dime she received from him, without realizing he was already committed to our marriage. This story highlights the stark reality of a narcissist’s control and manipulation.
Key Takeaways: Inform the legal authorities immediately to prevent further interference. Understand that narcissists are driven by external validation and supply. Lock them out of your life and move on with confidence and joy. Foster a new life with new people and enjoy it with no regrets.
Dealing with a former narcissist can be challenging, but it’s important to prioritize your well-being and the success of your new relationships. Use this knowledge to move forward and live a fulfilling life.